Psychic Guidance and Benediction

Love and Marriage

2009-11-18T08:56:00.000-08:00

I have been talking about love and bliss the last few days. I am coming up on my 16th wedding anniversary and it is not surprising that my focus has been in that area. Funny thing is, I swore from as far back as I can remember that I would never marry. I referred to my husband for years as my "first" husband to make light of the fact that I was truly married to this man. Don't get me wrong, Rick is the most amazingly loving and supportive spouse any woman could ask for. But, let me give you some background.

Me, age 4: Kindergarten, Mrs. Wellbaum's Class; we are playing the Farmer in the Dell... singing, dancing and all is well, UNTIL... the farmer takes a wife! Yup, an innocent, blond haired young man whose name will be changed more so because I have forgotten it than to protect the innocent. We shall call him Billy. Billy walks up and grasps my hand when the farmer takes a wife. I respond, well, in a bit of a crazed manner shall we say... I pull my hand away, begin crying and emphatically state. "No, no, no you can't make me marry you! I won't marry anyone! I don't want to be any one's wife! Why can't I just be the cheese? The cheese stands alone! Just let me be the cheese!" Needless to say parent/teacher conference followed and a trip to the school psychologist.

Ok, a bit over the top but a true story ("Billy" if you're out there really it wasn't about you. Sorry if there was any lasting damage.) I did not have very good role models for a healthy marital relationship. I am fond of saying every family has its own brand of crazy, you are just used to yours. My families brand of crazy involved unhealthy relationships. I knew from early on I wanted no part of it. It never occurred to me to change the behavior, to make better choices. At 4 I only knew avoidance was an option. I signed up for that.

Me, age 21: Aunt "L", "When are you going to get married?" My response, "Why do I need to get married, I already have a husband. 3 of them actually, they just aren't mine". Yeah, that was me; the other woman, x3. What is the best way to avoid a real committed relationship? Pick men who are unavailable (M, R, & J; I apologize to you and the people in your lives who were affected by our decisions).

Me, age 28: Can't we just live together? Rick, "Um, NO". I didn't sign on with reckless abandon. I signed on because he would not have it any other way. I made a tough decision and committed to it. I am not saying I went along with it easily or even readily. My family and friends made provisions to keep me from bolting on my wedding day, serious provisions.

Today I am 43 years old, married nearly 16 years and I am happy, truly, unequivocally happy. Blissed out if you will. Through my life I made choices that served me at the time, made choices that may have hurt others. I am sorry for any pain I caused. But, I am the sum of my experiences and I would not be as grateful for my life without those experiences.

Rick is as I said loving and supportive. How did this conservative, Italian-Catholic man, 10 years my senior become supportive of my being a Psychic and Medium? That my dears is best left for another day. Let me just say the first time he saw me read my horoscope in the newspaper he explained that as Catholics we would "go to hell" for that. Great, I thought so when would be a good time to tell you I speak with the dead.

Past Lives... Really?!

2009-11-13T14:29:00.000-08:00

Past Lives? Seriously... You don't even have to believe.

I cannot tell you whether or not to believe. I can only tell you that the concept is not a new one in fact it has been around for millennia. The major religions and cultures who embrace a belief in reincarnation include: Hindus, Buddhists, factions of Shiite Muslims, Hasidic Jews, Gnostic Christians, many West African tribes and Native Americans and Inuit. Even today in our very own American culture nearly 30% of the population has a belief system that includes reincarnation or past lives.

I offer to you, past life regression as a means of exploring the possibilities. Explore your relationships, your history, your faith and your identity. You do not even have to believe to obtain healing benefits from this therapy.

If you believe in past lives, then you understand we are spiritual beings having a human experience and we access our spiritual memories.

If you do not believe in past lives I offer these alternate explanations:

1. We access the Collective Unconscious as defined by Carl Jung (Swiss Psychiatrist who put forth a theory that there exists a universal human consciousness which holds the collective memories, experiences and wisdom of the human race of which people are able to tap.)

2. We access Genetic Memory (The theory that our DNA holds the wisdom and memories of our ancestors.)

3. We access our own Subconscious mind which uses our imagination and metaphors to provide direction, insight and answers to serve our higher self.

So, if you believe great, if not perhaps one of the alternate explanations resonates as a truth for you. Whatever the case Past Life Regression can make an amazing impact in your growth and understanding of this life.

Past Life Regression Therapy is Useful in...

Bringing forth latent talents

Expanding your sense of purpose

Resolving fears & phobias

Resolving sleeplessness

Resolving stress

Resolving anxiety and/or depression

Grief and bereavement

Career guidance

Pain relief and release

Weight loss

Enhancing relationships

Fostering forgiveness

Many other healing modalities

Happy Halloween!

2009-10-31T10:43:00.000-07:00

Today is Halloween, and ghosts (the cute and short kind) will walk among us tonight. As I think back to my childhood I recall I never wanted to be the scary characters for Halloween, I wanted my costume to have a purpose and be pretty: A princess, a nurse, Miss America (that one was my favorite). I never wanted to be scary or ugly or creepy.

I still don't want to be scary, I want to serve a purpose and a little mascara and concealer go a long way to keeping me from being ugly.

As for creepy, some people think what I do is creepy. To them I say, "Sorry". I am sorry for causing you discomfort. I cannot and will not change who I am or what I do though. I am happy and fulfilled this way. Happier than I have ever been, more fulfilled than you can imagine. I help people. I help them with direction, I help them with grief, I help them validate where they are in their lives. I help. Whether it is getting a message from a loved one through (yesterday it was a cat, yes a cat), identifying a better way, finding a lost object, or simply validating the other side. I help.

In the beginning my husband, Rick; was not the most open to this work I do. We had very different ideas about Mediumship and Psychic work. He was concerned about me and my immortal soul. He has since participated in seance and readings, he is my biggest supporter now. Why? Because I am happy, my clients are happy, the people around me are happy and he is happy. I bring peace, love and Light to everything I do now. I could not say that for the work I did before. I was good at it, but I was not happy. I wish you peace, love and Light on this day and every day, but most of all BE HAPPY.

Welcome

2009-10-02T17:24:00.000-07:00

I want to welcome you to the first of many postings. This site is for expressing my insights about your insights. I will ponder, share, question and possibly on rare occasion break out a soap box for dramatic effect.

Psychic Guidance and Benediction is the name I have chosen for this blog. It is about the metaphysical within us all and through out our world. Ultimately we are all intuitive, psychic, enlightened, or spirit filled. Some of us chose to listen and pay attention; others perhaps to listen and ignore and finally some just shut it all out.

This is for those of you who are curious about your place in this world, I know I am and I am always searching for more. I welcome you to join me.